I am sorry that you feel that you have to cover up your negativity. I am ONLY trying to help YOU. I can NOT see your computer screen, so I have to try to ask questions, so that you can answer them.
One the Preferred issue.
When there are multiple FACTs listed, for an Individual OR for Relationships, one of them it marked as Preferred.
Since you appear to have TWO Spouse Relationships, on the People Workspace, Person Tab, for Janet, Relationship Button, ONE of them is marked as Preferred.
Do you see that?
Now, back to the Family View, just below the Pedigree chart, there are two boxes, the Husband is on the Left (your Macdonald) and the Wife on the Right (your Scott) (I am getting this right)
On the right side of the Husband and the Wife box, there is an ICON. Just to the Right of that ICON may be a number. If there is ONE spouse, it will show 1. If there are multiple marriages, there will be a different number.
What are the two numbers of that couple where your Macdonalds and Scotts meet?