Thanks Mallory! I actually found a great deal about Lyman Abeland his father, and was able to prove that his father was William Roberts Abel, born in CT. The Revolutionary War Pension Application provides tons of information. I'm not sure what is up with the census, but I put a lot of work into sorting this out, and would be happy to provide information to anyone who is interested!
I still have not found anything on Sally Miller, and would really appreciate any information on her family.