Re: Berdena Lindabury of Michigan
Thank you very much! Your information has been very enlightening, and I am touched that you looked into the Schleffels for me. Let me explain a little, so you know where I am coming from. I am the granddaughter of Frank Schleffel by his second marriage to Mabel Shellstrom - my mother was his youngest child. Berdena's sons Herman and Clifford are my half-uncles. I never knew them or my grandfather Frank (he died many years before I was born). All my mother knew was that she had two half-brothers. Since I became interested in family history about a year ago, I've been able to find many pieces to the puzzle, one of them being Berdena. Ever since I "discovered" who she was, I've been very intrigued to know more about her (and her sons). This may sound strange, but I had a 'good' feeling about her, like she was a kind and gentle person. Obviously I don't know this, but you know how you try to imagine what your ancestor's personalities and lives were like. Frank was 21-22 and Berdena was 28-29 when they married, which was very unusual in that day in age. That also made me think she had some 'special' qualities. You can learn a lot about someone by the company they keep, and certainly the people they marry! I figured if I could find someone who knew Berdena or of her, I could indirectly learn more about Frank, through the qualities he looked for in his wife. Knowing what she looked like also helps me get an idea of what Herman and Clifford looked like. At any rate, what I do know of my grandfather, I suspect he was the cause of their break up. My dear aunt (she's the last of Frank's children still alive) says that his first wife (Berdena) had to go on welfare after they divorced because he couldn't provide for her. Apparently he was a very intelligent man but wasn't very good at maintaining a steady income (this was the same case in his second marriage).
I grew up in Buffalo, NY but currently live in Atlanta, GA. However, I was able to make 2 quick visits to Welland in the past 8 months. On the first visit, I found several of the Schloeffels/Schleffels buried in Overholt (Bethal) Cemetery in Port Colborne. One of the tombstones there was for Frederick Schleffel born October 1841, died January 1911, 70 years old. I was also able to find a little more on the Schleffels at the Welland Public Library, but unfortunately, I did not have much time. This must be the Frederick you mentioned (I did not know he drowned in Welland Canal!). Later, I found listed on a website a Frederick Schleffel buried at Doan's Ridge Cemetery. I was very excited when I saw this listing because I suspected it might be my great grandfather, Augustus Frederick Schleffel, who often went by his middle name (even though he apparently had a brother who had it as a first name). Now on my second visit, I only had part of a day, so I went to Welland SOLELY to find that grave. I can tell you, after I searched Doan's Ridge sections A,B,C,D three times, examining every headstone carefully, I was pretty stumped and rather aggravated, because it wasn't there. Now I know why! I had no idea there were unmarked graves there. I felt like I had been gypped by misinformation on the web. Your information cleared up that mystery for me. Thanks again.
Sorry to give you the 'whole story',but after you mentioned Welland,(I'm guessing you are from there or thereabouts)I couldn't help myself. Besides, I felt I had to explain why I was poking around the Lindabury Family Forum.
Good Luck also to you in your research, and if you do find anything you think would interest me, please drop me a line. I would enjoy hearing from you. Best wishes, Loren