>>My Grandma Ruth Joselle b. 10/30/03 or 04 midnite
sounds like your grandmother was born 30 Oct 1903 or 30 Oct 1904, at midnight. However, it could mean something else.
We are slowly getting somewhere. Women tend to have children between he ages of 16 and 46. 20 - 40 is more reasonable, but 16 - 46 will cover almost all the bases.
Men, if it is their first marriage, tend to marry women 0 - 4 years younger than them. This keeps their wives from popping their gum after they have relations. People in some parts of the country (West Virginia and Arkansas, for instance) sometimes marry 14-year olds and cover their heads with a pillow.
So, if your grandmother Ruth was born in 1903, her mother was 16 - 46 at the time, which puts her birth year at 1857 - 1887. If you happen to know the birth order of those 13 kids but think it won't help anyone, you are wrong. Children tend to come along every 1.5 - 2.5 years before 1920. If Anna had 13, she started early and ended late, so the first was born when whe was in her teens and the last was born when she was pushing 40 from the back side. That would give you a close birth year estimate for Anna, if you had the birth order. If you don't have the birth order, if you know that Ruth was the first or last, that would help.
Places would help too. Texas is big. Canada is bigger. Do you know where Ruth was born? Have you sent for her death certificate, obitury, SSN application?