Re: Albert Meritt Parmeter
I came up with your information while doing a power search on Albert Parmeter. I joined Genealogy.com just to respond to you. Being well into genealogy, I am sure the membership will be quite useful to me for other reasons, as well.
I grew up in York, Maine. The first two years of my life (and my twin brother's) were spent in their home because my mother was a nurse at their facility located on Beech Ridge Road in York and called "The Parmeter Home for Guests"
I think they were not making the go of the business that they had hoped and they took in a man who had tuberculosis. In those years tubercular patients always went to sanitoriums.
My mother, being a single parent, working twelve hours daily, seven days a week and caring for two very active twins became run down and contracted the disease herself. She went to a sanatorium and the plan was that the Parmeters would care for Bobby and me because their home was the only one we knew, but being in their sixties and running a nursing home by themselves was not exactly condusive to caring for two year old twins. Ultimately, we moved a half a mile up the road to live on our grandparents' diary farm, but Bert and Maybelle (how she chose to spell her name and I think it is a very pretty alternative) remained VERY much in our lives, like another set of grandparents.
I have had many of their records and Albert's middle name is not Merritt; it is Leslie. He also had a brother Edwin or Edward. I think Edwin who moved to York as well and lived just a few houses down from the nursing home. I do not remember his wife's name. They never had children.
Their only child Albert Leslie, Jr. was born in Norwich, CT. in 1915. He died in York in 1928, persumably of polio. Recently, it has been suggested that it might have meningitis. I am trying to find the doctor's records to see what he might have written.
Maybelle was NEVER the same. She spent hours out of each day landscaping the land around his grave. She built a greenhouse over his acutal burial spot and kept a lantern glowing inside at night as an eternal flame-when the blackouts came in WWII she was forced to put the light out. The grave was written up in both the New York Times and the Boston Globe. Even now people will come to the cemetery in York asking specifically about it.
I keep the grave up and try to honor her wishes by making sure there is an American flag in the Boy Scout flag holder there. Recently, I have tried to work it out for the Boy Scouts to do so, as I will not be around forever.
I am trying to find more information on the family-more than she ever told me because the information given to people who request it comes from me through the Old York Historical Society. I have found the record of his birth in Norwich, not far from where Maybelle was raised. I am now in the process of trying to locate a marriage certificate for Maybelle and Bert in New Haven. I believe Maybelle told me they had gone there to marry.There is not record in Norwich.
They met working at a hospital for the insane in Norwich. Both trained there to be nurses. I am not sure how stringent the requirements were then but they were both certified as such.
Bert told me he came from Chatagee (not sure of spelling), Vermont and later he and his family moved to St.Johnsbury. He often spoke of the maple syruping he participated in.
I am doing quite well with finding people on Maybelle's side-and am now considered "family" by them- but have had no success with the Parmeter side that is why I was thrilled to see something and I also wanted to make the correction on the middle name.
I do not remember Bert's father's name. Any information I can get from you would be ever so appreciated. I do not know when the "n" was taken out of that last name but I am sure it was there at one time and I am also pretty sure the name was originally spelled Parmentier. Am I correct??
They both grieved greatly for their son Albert Leslie Parmenter, Jr. I do not know WHY it started, but Maybelle insisted that Bobby and I call them "Mommy" and "Daddy" Parmeter. It worked okay while we were young. We had no father to call "Daddy" but we certainly DID have a mother we called "Mommy" amd as time went on, it got very complicated.
For many years after their deaths I referred to them as Mr. and Mrs. not wanting to call them Mommy and Daddy but wanting to refer to them with respect. Now, I refer to them as Maybelle and Bert because I feel it acknowledges a deeper connection than the more aloof Mr. and Mrs.
I hope this has been helpful to any Parmeters/Parmenters/Parmentiers who may read this and I fervently hope to connect with many of you.
Caryl McIntire Edwards
Not a blood relative but, as I refer to it, a "relative of the heart"