Lydia Upshaw Alsup, Douglas Co, Mo

I descend from Lydia Upshaw Alsup, widow of Leroy Upshaw who m. William N. Alsup in Douglas Co, MO. The question is what was her maiden name, Parsons or Collins. I have found many people who support Collins and also Parsons. Do any of you happen to have thoughts on this or a record of their marriage license, which might show a maiden name? The Collins supporters cannot give her fathers name. Is it possible that there were 2 Lydias, each with differing birth dates and states. Please contact me for more information and we can work on this together. I have posted here in the past and now have a new email gbshenold@provalue.net