Thanks for the reply, I checked other messages leading to yours and I think I may be in the right 'ball park' :Finallly.
I have checked surnames of others related in some connection to this message backwards and I recognize so many.
Mom had said we were related to Riley, Frye, and so many of the others.
I have searched for years under every soundex and close family, but had never thought of Riley.Thanks for the hint, and knowing my direct family didn't descend from other Woolley, Wooley, Willey, etc family I have found, I have started with MD and MA and found Wooler, Wolhea, I will know try Riley.
I know Walker is also supposed to be related.
I can only find back to 1837 and the first marriage, Benham, of my gg-grandfather and 1844 to his second wife Dorsey, Darsey,D'Arcy,etc.I haven't been able to locate him before or after these dates.
I can trace and have many of his descendants and extended family.I had hoped Chandler (his middle name) would give me a lead and that is still possible.Just a longer journey I think.I feel he must have been in service, but can only find records of Willey, Wiley and have no proof this is he.In 1880 his second wife is a widow living with some of their children and her father in OHIO.
I can't email you direct, perhaps you could email me if you can be of any assistance, I would so much appreciate it.